What Jane Austen memes get wrong about Pride and Prejudice

 I've been thinking about putting together this blog for a long time. I know that the memes are meant for fun, though the way some of them are so off the mark really irks me. 

While these are not limited to Pride and Prejudice, that work -- primarily as seen through the 1995 and 2005 adaptions -- accounts for most of them. So here are five of them and the reasons they bother me as someone who depends on the primary text for understanding Jane Austen's take on characters rather than on the adaptions. 

1. Darcy vs. Wickham

The problem with Wickham vs. Darcy is actually the opposite of what the meme suggests. Wickham is charm personified. Everyone enjoys his company. So he definitely spark a feeling of joy upon meeting. In contrast, Darcy comes across as standoffish and even rude. It is exactly that which makes those who don't know him think he will never spark joy. In fact, what he sparks is not exactly joy but a deeper kind of happiness.

2. Introverts and extroverts 

Darcy likely is an introvert, but Elizabeth definitely is not. The awkward stance captured form the 2005 film doesn't reflect Elizabeth feeling introverted but not at ease, as her feelings for Darcy are shaped by her negative impressions of him.  

In fact, Elizabeth is one of Austen's most extroverted heroines, as I discussed here: Jane Austen's Heroines: Ranging from Extroverted Emma to Introverted Fanny. Socializing and small talk comes naturally to her, and she teases Darcy about his conversational and social shortcomings both when they dance and when he approaches her at the piano in his aunt's house. Darcy definitely can count as an introvert, which some people automatically seem to assume means he's on the spectrum.  Honestly, I don't think that Austen intended such an interpretation of her leading man. She seems quite sympathetic to introverted characters who are often misunderstood or underestimated. 

3. Why Elizabeth rejects Darcy's first proposal

             

This meme highlights that what Darcy says about Elizabeth's family has a lot of truth to it. She, too, finds her younger sisters and her mother embarrassing. She also knows -- though she wouldn't admit it at this point yet -- that Mr. Bennet has neglected his duties as a father. But the real reason she rejects him is not because she's in a fit of pique but because she blames him for breaking her sister's heart by convincing Bingley to leave off his courtship of Jane. 

 4. Wickham's regrets

We know that Wickham doesn't love Lydia and only married her to get a substantial sum of money from Darcy that he needed to pay off his debts. He wasn't thinking about marriage when he ran off with her, and she may not have thought much about it either. That the marriage would sour for both of them is made pretty clear in the text even though Lydia is at first blissfully oblivious. However, there really is no viable choice for Lydia. The only way she and her family could regain respectability was with this shotgun wedding. And things could have been worse for Wickham who will not let Lydia hamper his fun going forward.

6. The move misquote that is endlessly perpetuated

           

Jane Austen never used the phrase "most ardently," which was an invention of the 2005 film and has since been rendered into countless products and even other book titles intended to allude to Pride and Prejudice. What Darcy actually said in the course of the doomed first proposal (Volume II, Chapter 11 / Chapter 34) is this: "In vain I have struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you."

I am not a fan of the shift to "I love you. Most ardently." But what's even worse is that so many supposed Austen fans will think they are quoting the novel accurately. Incidentally, I'm certain that the Darcy in the rain for the 2005 film was its way of coming up with a wet Darcy without outright copying the swim. 

6. Confusing the adaption and the book 

This meme is actually right about what many people get wrong.

While the devoted fans of the 1995 adaption will claim that it was absolutely true to the book, that is not true. It, too, deviated from the text and invented scenes and actions that Austen would not have dreamt of. Chief among them, of course, is the Darcy in the lake scene. Obviously, that was the director's idea to show a kind of Regency equivalent of taking a cold shower for the Elizabeth-obsessed Darcy and to create an embarrassing meeting between the hero and heroine. 

But people have become obsessed with that invention that is so widely celebrated that Colin Firth as Darcy in his wet shirt was rendered into a 12-foot sculpture statue and placed in a London lake in 2013.  

I get it. That's all in fun. However, so many people who pretend to know Jane Austen's work but really only watch the adaptions have come to believe this is canon. I recall a woman seriously arguing that a later adaption of Pride and Prejudice had been "censored" because it didn't include a wet Darcy in it. 

There are some other memes that also are far from accurate for both this novel and some of the other five. I may pursue another roundup at some point. 

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Tiffany on Long Island

If you're a fan of Tiffany lamps, windows, and other dishes, you may be interested in the other side of Louis Comfort Tiffany -- his paintings. Over 130 of his watercolor and oil paintings were assembled for  the Nassau Museum of Art's exhibit, Louis Comfort Tiffany: Artist of the Gilded Age. 

I love the simplicity of the Natilus Shell Table Lamp  

Between you and me, both my husband and I were not blown away by his paintings. Some of them do exhibit decent technical skill, but there is no striking vision or style that makes them stand out the way the artists more famous for that medium are. It may be due to the fact that he seemed to vacillate between different influences of the period, including Impressionism, the Hudson River School, and the popularity of what was called "Oriental" paintings that depicted exotic locations from the Middle East at a time when that was particularly fashionable.

Tiffany lamps

Tiffany mirror

However, it is interesting to see that he took note of some of the architectural elements he observed on his travels to incorporate into his Oyster Bay Mansion, Laurelton Hall. Unfortunately, the mansion burned down. However, this exhibit include a couple of Tiffany's paintings of his home, and the Metropolitan Museum retains its columns and entrance screen. 

The Met also has some of truly spectacular specimens of his stained glass windows, including the 3-part Garden landscape window made  for Linden Hallis that comprises over 10,000 pieces of glass.  If you make it before the end of February 2027, you can also see nearly 120 drawings for the plans for his stained glass designs in Designing the Gilded Age: Drawings from the Studios of Louis C. Tiffany

The earrings have a cover that can encase the diamond drops to make them less
temptingfor thieves when the wearer travels. The choker can convert into a bracelet. 

Of course, the Nassau Museum also has some Tiffany lamps on display. If you want to see even more of them all in one place, I'd recommend a visit to the New York Historical, which owns 100 of them. The Nassau Museum's exhibit is set up differently, though, with the lamps distributed among other glass objects from Tiffany studio and furniture of the period. 

Be sure to also catch the display of jewelry (not by Louis Comfort of his family's famous store) in the hallways part of the museum that and the three elaborate ensembles on mannequins that are meant to convey how intricate decoration and design carried over even to the fashions of that time.

These beautiful glass dishes are from Tiffany's studios. If you look closely, you'll see that flowers get stretched a bit around the rims. That's because the color was placed into the glass and got stretched as it was shaped rather than painted onto an already formed dish. Imperfect, perhaps, but still perfectly beautiful. 

The Tiffany exhibit closes on November 8, 2026. That happens to be a Museums on Us weekend, so you would be able to visit for free if you have a Bank of America card. If you don't, you can either pay the $15 regular admission or check if you library offers passes to it. Many do. 

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